someone please remind me WHY I put up with this shit?
My roommate is driving me up a fucking wall - when she's not being an attention whore and a slut - fucking guys for the attention she's try to start shit with me because I don't pay attention to her bratty acting out bullshit - like going to raves with me, the sleeping around, whatever.
I am five seconds from telling her to grow the fuck up and stop being a slut.
I think I deserve a drink.
It is NOT my faut she made/makes bad choices and if she thought it was such a huge fucking deal she ought to have moved out or grown some balls and stopped shit long ago. God she's such a brat ... I mean, I'm appealing to a deity I don't even believe exists!
(Thanks for "listening" to me bitch!!! If anyone has any serious roommate advice please share. I have tried the be an island unto yourself and ignore them when you see "acting out" and btw, isn't that a term we use for five year olds - but still that's what it is. She's like a fucking kid - doing shit she knows is wrong and bragging about it for attention. What the hell am I supposed to do? I'm not her mother and I don't have time to be.)
Dear God ...
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Dear God ...
Lie to me, it takes less time to drink you pretty.
"fucking guys for the attention"
tell her about hpv
i don't know actually. but i'm sorry you're having roomie problems again --
it sucks to get along badly with the person with whom you live.
i've learned this from two bad experiences
acting out, yes, that's what they call it today, i prefer the good old fashioned well that one's a handful.
tell her about hpv
i don't know actually. but i'm sorry you're having roomie problems again --
it sucks to get along badly with the person with whom you live.
i've learned this from two bad experiences
acting out, yes, that's what they call it today, i prefer the good old fashioned well that one's a handful.
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true. it should be more pleasant, but i mean, what can they do, really?
i'm glad your bc requires you to get regular check ups. it's smart.
i wasn't very smart and went for the naww, everything's just fine, ummm. wrong!
(but i've never taken birth control, which should have clued me in that something didn't work right, luck has not much to do with that many years of no baby production)
good for you though telling her about hpv -- i tell everyone, i'm like hpv sucks, cervical cancer!! no one pays attention, i think probably because it doesn't have all the gross-out effects of other stds, but ya know people are going to make their own stupid choices for themselves.
i know i have.
can you move out? get a place by yourself? get a dog as opposed to a human roomie
earlier last year i thought of rooming with a friend of mine when i needed to leave my house, but i decided not to; it's a strain even if the person is a good friend.
it took me years to get over knowing some things about a friend i lived with . . . but i guess you could say, that was my problem just as much as hers.
dunno.
hope it works out.
i'm glad your bc requires you to get regular check ups. it's smart.
i wasn't very smart and went for the naww, everything's just fine, ummm. wrong!
(but i've never taken birth control, which should have clued me in that something didn't work right, luck has not much to do with that many years of no baby production)
good for you though telling her about hpv -- i tell everyone, i'm like hpv sucks, cervical cancer!! no one pays attention, i think probably because it doesn't have all the gross-out effects of other stds, but ya know people are going to make their own stupid choices for themselves.
i know i have.
can you move out? get a place by yourself? get a dog as opposed to a human roomie
earlier last year i thought of rooming with a friend of mine when i needed to leave my house, but i decided not to; it's a strain even if the person is a good friend.
it took me years to get over knowing some things about a friend i lived with . . . but i guess you could say, that was my problem just as much as hers.
dunno.
hope it works out.
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Well the "drama" with the currant roomie ceters around her fucking one of my really, really good friends. A really, really good artist friend at that. He makes some amazing music.
Anyway - she's tried to fuck all my friends and then calls ME a whore because I ya know ... have sex, with my boyfriend.
But regardless of my sexual activity, she fucks Jon. Jon doesn't want a realtionship - I understand, I normally am anti-realtionship and pretty much everything else for the sake of my art. If I can still write or paint decently (or at least do it and create SOMETHING even if it is absolute shit) then it's cool and I don't have to do less of something and more of another. If that's not the case, well, I've been known to break off engagements (I did this twice to the same guy ... go figure), cancel appointments, skip class, randomly take a trip somewhere ... really whatever. The point is for me, it's all about the art. I'll be successful if I can manage to create something that speaks to and is relevant for people in general you know? Create something new.
So Jon and I share this idea of success. Roomie wants a big house and oodles of money and conventional success I guess - though I personally think that's a very American-Middle-Class idea of "success" and has very little to do with satisfaction of your life etc.
So I was accused of being a bad influence and "pressuring her" to do things and "leading her down the wrong path." Umm.. .totally what the fuck. First let me say I never wanted her to hang out with me - we knew each other and that was fine, I thought it would be better than moving in with another random person. Although we knew each other and had hung out some in the past I didn't want to do anything aside from occassionally see a concert with her or watch some movies if I was bored on a Saturday night, whatever. We weren't really good friends - and I liked it that way. But she didn't have anything better to do and she always wanted to go where I was going. Even say to a heroin party that would most likely turn into an orgy.
I knew she couldn't deal with that one so I was like "um no, sorry, this is just for me and the boy." She didn't talk to me for like a week. It probably didn't help Jon was there (at the party). THEN she fucked on of my exs and cried later about it because he told her he wouldn't date her in a million years and she acted like a slut - and so he treated her like one and it's her fault. Now - I am not saying that was right of him, I really don't talk to him much because of it, but I understand where he's coming from and feminist that I am - I realise there is a point to which women need to be aware of their general situation and take control of it.
I digress - so she basically implied I was unsuccessful and a whole lot of other things. I want to know how someone witha 3.8 overall GPA and a 4.00 in each major is unsuccessful - especially compared to someone who has barely a 3.00. Not to mention I'm fairly happy in other areas of my life - and by my defintion of success I am also decently successful. I have a gallery show coming up on St. Louis in May so woohoo!
I realise that she's acting out because she is unhappy with something - and possibly having a fairly happy roommate doesn't help. But that's you know - definately not my fault. And living with so much tension makes me much less happy.
I can't even sleep with her in the room because of the tension. Not even if J stays over. So when she moves I'll buy out her space but until then - I'll be grumpy and depressed.
Anyway - she's tried to fuck all my friends and then calls ME a whore because I ya know ... have sex, with my boyfriend.
But regardless of my sexual activity, she fucks Jon. Jon doesn't want a realtionship - I understand, I normally am anti-realtionship and pretty much everything else for the sake of my art. If I can still write or paint decently (or at least do it and create SOMETHING even if it is absolute shit) then it's cool and I don't have to do less of something and more of another. If that's not the case, well, I've been known to break off engagements (I did this twice to the same guy ... go figure), cancel appointments, skip class, randomly take a trip somewhere ... really whatever. The point is for me, it's all about the art. I'll be successful if I can manage to create something that speaks to and is relevant for people in general you know? Create something new.
So Jon and I share this idea of success. Roomie wants a big house and oodles of money and conventional success I guess - though I personally think that's a very American-Middle-Class idea of "success" and has very little to do with satisfaction of your life etc.
So I was accused of being a bad influence and "pressuring her" to do things and "leading her down the wrong path." Umm.. .totally what the fuck. First let me say I never wanted her to hang out with me - we knew each other and that was fine, I thought it would be better than moving in with another random person. Although we knew each other and had hung out some in the past I didn't want to do anything aside from occassionally see a concert with her or watch some movies if I was bored on a Saturday night, whatever. We weren't really good friends - and I liked it that way. But she didn't have anything better to do and she always wanted to go where I was going. Even say to a heroin party that would most likely turn into an orgy.
I knew she couldn't deal with that one so I was like "um no, sorry, this is just for me and the boy." She didn't talk to me for like a week. It probably didn't help Jon was there (at the party). THEN she fucked on of my exs and cried later about it because he told her he wouldn't date her in a million years and she acted like a slut - and so he treated her like one and it's her fault. Now - I am not saying that was right of him, I really don't talk to him much because of it, but I understand where he's coming from and feminist that I am - I realise there is a point to which women need to be aware of their general situation and take control of it.
I digress - so she basically implied I was unsuccessful and a whole lot of other things. I want to know how someone witha 3.8 overall GPA and a 4.00 in each major is unsuccessful - especially compared to someone who has barely a 3.00. Not to mention I'm fairly happy in other areas of my life - and by my defintion of success I am also decently successful. I have a gallery show coming up on St. Louis in May so woohoo!
I realise that she's acting out because she is unhappy with something - and possibly having a fairly happy roommate doesn't help. But that's you know - definately not my fault. And living with so much tension makes me much less happy.
I can't even sleep with her in the room because of the tension. Not even if J stays over. So when she moves I'll buy out her space but until then - I'll be grumpy and depressed.
Lie to me, it takes less time to drink you pretty.
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oh - and I may have a bad reaction to my birthcontrol. My vagina is just angry and irritated for not apparently reason. Every test under the sun has been run - it's still nto happy. I am supposed to have sex with lots of differnet condoms this week to see if the condoms we use (you never can be too careful, sperm are tricky) have something to do with it. This is difficult when your vagina is angry with you!
Lie to me, it takes less time to drink you pretty.
pixie, you and i are a lot alike.
for one thing i don't measure success in terms of money, i think that's horrible, in fact i too ended a long relationship because of this guy's need for some kind of status thing money thing, social climbing is disgusting, he wanted to buy me a car and give me plantium rimmed china, i was like, no, gross!!
i was a 4.0 in my major too, and i had difficulties with my roomie because, well not the same reasons, but still.
you seem like you have the situation from hell. i think, i don't know.
i got to the point with my girlfriends though where i was like whatever, but we always had an agreement not to screw around with the same circle of male friends . . . it's just not a good idea, as i see you can see.
there was the one friend, she had sex with a boyfriend of mine, he was pissed because i wouldn't put out, she would and oh, well, actually it happened two times, two different guys, i got rid of both folks, i figured that ain't love and i ain't interested.
now though i'm like fuck the money, fuck love, fuck fucking for that matter . . . i just want to do some good -- i think i'm as close to joining a convent as one can come without being religious.
(but then i'm always reminded of some mark twain quote something like if you live for good health, that's all you'll get or somethin. . . so.)
ouch on the angry vagina. i don't like condoms. i hate them. i thought monogamy was the way around them, i thought wrong, find a condom that makes your coochie happy.
for one thing i don't measure success in terms of money, i think that's horrible, in fact i too ended a long relationship because of this guy's need for some kind of status thing money thing, social climbing is disgusting, he wanted to buy me a car and give me plantium rimmed china, i was like, no, gross!!
i was a 4.0 in my major too, and i had difficulties with my roomie because, well not the same reasons, but still.
you seem like you have the situation from hell. i think, i don't know.
i got to the point with my girlfriends though where i was like whatever, but we always had an agreement not to screw around with the same circle of male friends . . . it's just not a good idea, as i see you can see.
there was the one friend, she had sex with a boyfriend of mine, he was pissed because i wouldn't put out, she would and oh, well, actually it happened two times, two different guys, i got rid of both folks, i figured that ain't love and i ain't interested.
now though i'm like fuck the money, fuck love, fuck fucking for that matter . . . i just want to do some good -- i think i'm as close to joining a convent as one can come without being religious.
(but then i'm always reminded of some mark twain quote something like if you live for good health, that's all you'll get or somethin. . . so.)
ouch on the angry vagina. i don't like condoms. i hate them. i thought monogamy was the way around them, i thought wrong, find a condom that makes your coochie happy.
this person called you a slut?
none of my friends have ever done that. i just thought about it, went through all the fights in my head i've had with them, and decided that's terrible. get rid of her.
the worst anyone's ever called me was a bitch and i can't say that i times i haven't deserved that.
of course the person who said it was referring to how i look, you look like you'd be a bitch. i don't really know how a person looks like she'd be a bitch
but to call you a slut. that's not a friend, in my book.
she'd be off my list of things to worry about i think. just the bitch in me i guess.
none of my friends have ever done that. i just thought about it, went through all the fights in my head i've had with them, and decided that's terrible. get rid of her.
the worst anyone's ever called me was a bitch and i can't say that i times i haven't deserved that.
of course the person who said it was referring to how i look, you look like you'd be a bitch. i don't really know how a person looks like she'd be a bitch
but to call you a slut. that's not a friend, in my book.
she'd be off my list of things to worry about i think. just the bitch in me i guess.
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Haha ... I admit that I am a bitch. And I have very little patience for people who can't think for themselves. I really can't stand it when people can't look critically at the situation and all the contributes to it and everything you know?
Like for one thing - my roommate is black and keeps trying to date upper to upper middle class white guys - who go to this lovely (ohhh dripping with sarcasm!) Jesuit, conservative as fuck university. By this point I feel like throwing an Angela Davis book at her - because in all honesty there is something valid in that sort of thing is central to systematic oppression of black women.
Aside from that there's the fact that she can't figure out how class factors into everything you know? Like why I know a lot of people who don't measure success that way and are perfectly happy having kids, no college, and you know a job. She can't seem to grasp that it's not cause they do drugs but cause they didn't expect to and therefore didnt' really WANT to.
On the slut thing - I am completely used to being called a slut. Despite having not had sex with anyone from my highschool aside fromt he person who raped me - I was the school slut.
But contrary to popular belife, I do not sleep around. and I'm not slut. So eh ... she is tho' and that's totally on her!
I am being the more mature person though and not telling everyone her business. But what I wouldn't love to be able to and still come out looking better than her!
Like for one thing - my roommate is black and keeps trying to date upper to upper middle class white guys - who go to this lovely (ohhh dripping with sarcasm!) Jesuit, conservative as fuck university. By this point I feel like throwing an Angela Davis book at her - because in all honesty there is something valid in that sort of thing is central to systematic oppression of black women.
Aside from that there's the fact that she can't figure out how class factors into everything you know? Like why I know a lot of people who don't measure success that way and are perfectly happy having kids, no college, and you know a job. She can't seem to grasp that it's not cause they do drugs but cause they didn't expect to and therefore didnt' really WANT to.
On the slut thing - I am completely used to being called a slut. Despite having not had sex with anyone from my highschool aside fromt he person who raped me - I was the school slut.
But contrary to popular belife, I do not sleep around. and I'm not slut. So eh ... she is tho' and that's totally on her!
I am being the more mature person though and not telling everyone her business. But what I wouldn't love to be able to and still come out looking better than her!
Lie to me, it takes less time to drink you pretty.
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I agree Tommy. I long for the days when I was the only girl in the entire house - and still didn't do the dishes or cook. I suppose I don't preform femininity very well ... and it annoys me in most women. I am the most competitive person I know - once it's on, it's totally on - but that doesn't apply to every area of my life. I do not view other women as competition you know? They're people - but since a lot of women DO view other women as competition ... well this is probably why really I don't like a lot of women. And I hate it when women pretend to be stupid or who knows maybe actually are that stupid.
All of that aside I was just thinking about the American idea of success and how it is measured by money ... I dunno but now that I think about it, it's not that I don't want quality and etc. It's just when it comes to materialism I want it on my own terms. I am a materialistic bitch - when I bought mascara at Walgreens, I bitch about it being shitty and gunky (and it is despite that it's a big drugstore brand) and tend to not buy off brand things in general, I think more in terms of quality. Like, I never guy clothing because of the brand-name; but I will be more likely to buy an item from a brand known for good quality. It's not to say that I expect other people do that though - I get very upset when people buy me things unless the buying is equal. For instance, when I did eventually date a guy much better off than myself I found it difficult to even let him buy me a cup of coffee. That's not to say I would have paid for him - as he doesn't really need me to - but that I found it exteremely uncomfortable to be completely paid for. For some weird reason I'm much more likely to share expenses with people who are actually sharing and making just as great sacrifices as myself.
I'm probably off topic - but I did get some sleep today
Unfortunately, I skipped a class to do it. Dammnit. I can't STAND missing class. But I really couldn't wakeup.
All of that aside I was just thinking about the American idea of success and how it is measured by money ... I dunno but now that I think about it, it's not that I don't want quality and etc. It's just when it comes to materialism I want it on my own terms. I am a materialistic bitch - when I bought mascara at Walgreens, I bitch about it being shitty and gunky (and it is despite that it's a big drugstore brand) and tend to not buy off brand things in general, I think more in terms of quality. Like, I never guy clothing because of the brand-name; but I will be more likely to buy an item from a brand known for good quality. It's not to say that I expect other people do that though - I get very upset when people buy me things unless the buying is equal. For instance, when I did eventually date a guy much better off than myself I found it difficult to even let him buy me a cup of coffee. That's not to say I would have paid for him - as he doesn't really need me to - but that I found it exteremely uncomfortable to be completely paid for. For some weird reason I'm much more likely to share expenses with people who are actually sharing and making just as great sacrifices as myself.
I'm probably off topic - but I did get some sleep today
Unfortunately, I skipped a class to do it. Dammnit. I can't STAND missing class. But I really couldn't wakeup.Lie to me, it takes less time to drink you pretty.
a lot of make-up is made from blood. (deer blood -- hunters sell it to cosmetic companies -- this knowledge is the result of hanging with men . . . i highly recommend it too, imo you don't need a reason to hang out with men, just do it, they are usually fun and full of interesting weird knowledge)
i like to hang out with women too, though, i mean most of the ones i know, are great listeners and sympathesizers
i think though it's good to live by yourself, at least for a while.
when i moved to mobile, i was like, oh, shit, i don't know anyone, making friends from scratch and living alone was really great. i recommend it.
i like to hang out with women too, though, i mean most of the ones i know, are great listeners and sympathesizers
i think though it's good to live by yourself, at least for a while.
when i moved to mobile, i was like, oh, shit, i don't know anyone, making friends from scratch and living alone was really great. i recommend it.
Jesus Christ! Pixie's cunt is ANGRY with her? I sure missed a lot on this thread already. Sheesh *wipes brow* I hope you're okay Pixie.
Also it doesn't help that I've been reading this (surprisingly fantastic) book by Ben Watt from Everything But The Girl called "Patient" about his whole hospital experience when he got this really rare disease none of the doctors could identify and it's making me worry that my friends are going to get sick or something. I get paranoid.
Also it doesn't help that I've been reading this (surprisingly fantastic) book by Ben Watt from Everything But The Girl called "Patient" about his whole hospital experience when he got this really rare disease none of the doctors could identify and it's making me worry that my friends are going to get sick or something. I get paranoid.
Like, I never guy clothing because of the brand-name
But EVERYONE guys clothing, Pixie! Get with the trend! ahhaahahahahah
I trust you know I'm only laughing because I know you're smart enough to chuckle at a Freudian slip!
But EVERYONE guys clothing, Pixie! Get with the trend! ahhaahahahahah
I trust you know I'm only laughing because I know you're smart enough to chuckle at a Freudian slip!
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'm probably off topic - but I did get some sleep today Smile Unfortunately, I skipped a class to do it. Dammnit. I can't STAND missing class. But I really couldn't wakeup.
Baby, you got to to do what you gotta do. I have BEEN there. Especially 10 years ago when I was in school, now that was when I had real sleeping problems. But I have skipped classes too sometimes even now. It has to be done. I could talk about how much I hate this stupid chocolate industry group project I'm doing now but I'll refrain from noting that I had to get up at fucking 6 am on a Saturday today and then some of my group members weren't even finished with their parts and didn't do what they said they were going to and ARRGGGGGH they kept me away from alcohol for a whole Friday night for that???
Also...
a lot of make-up is made from blood. (deer blood -- hunters sell it to cosmetic companies -- this knowledge is the result of hanging with men . . .
Well to be honest I would like to know what exactly make up IS made of because there is this guy in our group who wanted to incorporate into our project this idea of there being chocolate make up you know? Because supposedly he found these chocolate lipsticks or whatever the hell. And all the rest of us in the group are like "okay that is totally not relevant to the project we're doing here - we are studying the chocolate industry, that is the make up industry" and he claimed today that it is fucking made out of chocolate, that makeup is made out of fucking chocolate. And I'm just like...ARRGGh I can't contradict him but at the same time it sure sounds like a lot of bullshit.
Baby, you got to to do what you gotta do. I have BEEN there. Especially 10 years ago when I was in school, now that was when I had real sleeping problems. But I have skipped classes too sometimes even now. It has to be done. I could talk about how much I hate this stupid chocolate industry group project I'm doing now but I'll refrain from noting that I had to get up at fucking 6 am on a Saturday today and then some of my group members weren't even finished with their parts and didn't do what they said they were going to and ARRGGGGGH they kept me away from alcohol for a whole Friday night for that???
Also...
a lot of make-up is made from blood. (deer blood -- hunters sell it to cosmetic companies -- this knowledge is the result of hanging with men . . .
Well to be honest I would like to know what exactly make up IS made of because there is this guy in our group who wanted to incorporate into our project this idea of there being chocolate make up you know? Because supposedly he found these chocolate lipsticks or whatever the hell. And all the rest of us in the group are like "okay that is totally not relevant to the project we're doing here - we are studying the chocolate industry, that is the make up industry" and he claimed today that it is fucking made out of chocolate, that makeup is made out of fucking chocolate. And I'm just like...ARRGGh I can't contradict him but at the same time it sure sounds like a lot of bullshit.