going to the chapel..or at least the court house

Post by **mccutcheon** » Fri Sep 20, 2002 3:26 pm

Two years ago Julia, Zac, Sloth and I were all living under the same roof. It was fun and bohemien. I thought wow, what a life as we drink and write and screw. Well I did those things, Zac barely reads, but he does drink. Anyway Zac is now married (to a girl who worked on a cruise ship we went to Alaska on..see Cruising for more details. I'll now have to write an epilouge to that story) Julia is getting married to the guy she started to see right after me. And Sloth is tying the noose in less than two weeks. Me? I live in the desert. Next to a cactus.

Post by **Sloth** » Fri Sep 20, 2002 4:13 pm

Julia is probably marrying for papers like me.

Zac needs a mother.

Hold out for a european... and please don't hump the cactus.

Post by **mccutcheon** » Fri Sep 20, 2002 4:31 pm

You guys all married someone from another country which I think is cool. Zac's wife is Lei Wang. Maybe she'll pick up a McCutcheon. I'll try to talk her into it at Christmas. I think Lei McCutcheon Wang sounds cool. As for the cacti- they are all tender on the inside.

marky · Post by **marky** » Sun Sep 22, 2002 8:58 am

I too have noticed a strange wave of marriages
taking place around me. My good buddy Steve said
recently he's getting married. Stuart got married. Sloth. My friend John, who'd been single for forever apparently finally met his match this summer. My good friend Ann and her husband just had a baby, and not too long ago the same was true for my friend Jeff and his wife, who had been childless for quite some time. I'm beginning to feel like the only person in the world who's single and has no kids. I don't feel any burning need to be in a relationship or have kids, but it would be nice to be able to relate and feel like part of what's going on with everyone else.
I put a really high value on friendship and it's
disconcerting to see my friends move away from me and into their own more domestic lives. Not that I blame or resent them for it, but...wow I never thought I'd say all this to anyone. Timely topic, McCutcheon.

Post by **mccutcheon** » Sun Sep 22, 2002 4:52 pm

and I agree with you Mark. there is a new trend called 'starter marriages'. over 30 million women in American under the age of 28 have been married and divorced. They get married to try it on and then move on to the next thing. My friend Ryan got married at the age of 18 and we lost our friendship over it. I was against it you see and his wife was for it, and she didn't like it when I voiced my opinion. She even went so far as to say i made a pass at her once in San Fran. sounds like an untrue stary but ask Jack Chiefton. he knows all about it, even more than me I think. The longer you wait to get married the better chance you have of it being forever and until death due you part. People who get married after 25 have an 80% better chance of staying together, and the perecntage or average gets higher as they get older. I'm waiting until Reece Witherspoon is a free lady-except I don't think i want to be the step daddy of her handsome soon to be ex husband. Now as for post 9/11 sex. I'm all for that. even though i don't think it will lead to a baby boom, but I know in the days that followed everyone I know was out getting laid. That's a trend I can get into, if you know what i mean. I even wrote a story about the subject (Sex Starts in the Mind)that everyone misunderstood. And just to make myself clear, when I said I'll try to get Lei Wang a McCutcheon, just meant it would be cool if she would add the name.

<sarah> · Post by **<sarah>** » Mon Sep 23, 2002 3:49 am

i listened to a friend cover a song in the bathroom at the local bar -- i love to hear him play; I was there with the hubby, but snuck away into my stall just to listen to him without distractions, and sure, I felt a like a weirdo, but it was worth it. Friends are good; I'd hang out in the bathroom to feel closer to them any day.

I don't think I'd be fond of marriage without friends and bars and music.

Now I'm wondering what modern marriage is supposed to be. And I'm irritated with myself for trying to think about it. People talk about how much work it is to have a good marriage -- Usually I end up resenting things that require a lot of work, especially when the end of all that work is something as elusive as goodness. The pervasive puritanical work ethic kills everything. Maybe it's scared girls into these starter marriages. I don't know. I read Jane Eyre one too many times in my formative years to know anything about modern girls.

h. · Post by h. » Mon Sep 23, 2002 5:00 am

I've got a starter family...
But I don't think I'll annul it or separate it or divorce it.
Marriage. Damn. It's something I never wanted to do, then did want to do, felt sorry that I didn't do, and now don't really care if I do.
I don't even know what to think of it. I'd love it, if there were someone I liked that much to sign papers with.
But then, I've heard every excuse for doing it from "well, I like her enough", "I need citezenship", and my favorite... "he's not THAT gross" to lead me to believe there are any number of reasons for doing it. Love is the best. And I've been lucky enough to see that in several cases.
I think you just get married because you want to. We ain't living in the 50's anymore, so there's no other excuse...

<Jack Chiefton> · Post by **<Jack Chiefton>** » Mon Sep 23, 2002 4:20 pm

Being single(finally) is the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

Post by **mccutcheon** » Mon Sep 23, 2002 6:39 pm

DOES THAT MEAN YOU GOT THAT MONKEY (HER) OFF YOUR BACK? SEE YOU AT CHRISTMAS.

<jack chiefton> · Post by **<jack chiefton>** » Tue Sep 24, 2002 3:59 pm

indeed. Mutual sex and friendship is way better. hope you're enjoying Arizona. give the cacti a kiss for me.

Post by **mccutcheon** » Tue Sep 24, 2002 4:43 pm

you should come and give the cacti a kiss yourself.

<rosie> · Post by **<rosie>** » Wed Sep 25, 2002 5:49 pm

i got married and divorced for love. it didn't make me a better person and it did not improve our relationship except for give us more tenancity in our daily living together. single is so good. i don't have to be told what i should do,i don't have to feel bad for not fucking some guy who swears ands spits at me and jacks off to girls at the lusty. i can also relax and hang out by myself which i used to not be able to do. ask mc. it was a fucking nightmare.
i saw julia last night, she looks very much in love .

<rosie> · Post by **<rosie>** » Wed Sep 25, 2002 5:50 pm

do open marriages work? does anyone know?

marky · Post by **marky** » Thu Sep 26, 2002 8:27 am

I don't think cactii are very good kissers.

Brett · Post by **Brett** » Thu Sep 26, 2002 3:31 pm

Rosie, you seem to have very distorted view of love.